by Diane Gottsman on May 20, 2013

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Memorial Day traditions usually include spending time with family and friends, often times, traveling together to a particular destination. I am offering a few travel tips to make the trip less stressful and more enjoyable for everyone.
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Traveling with family and friends can be frantic or fabulous – you decide:
- Discuss details in advance. You may be renting a condo on the beach or pitching a tent in the woods, but knowing who will be doing the cooking, cleaning, driving, navigating and other various duties would be good dinner conversation before packing your bags. You may expect the men to do the hard labor in the wilderness when both men on the trip have an aversion to the outdoors, a broken arm or don’t know how to use a tool. (Now is the right time to reroute and go someplace else!)Will you meet at the airport? Park in the security parking lot? Meet at someone’s house and drive to the airport together? Drive instead of fly? Share a room? Who’s making the reservations? Offering their credit card for a deposit? It’s important to be upfront with pertinent information early on to set the precedent for the entire trip.
- Have a chat about money matters before departure. It’s better to discuss how expenses will be shared before the awkward moment when the bill arrives. Decide how costs will be split. Also use this opportunity to agree upon how you plan to get around once you arrive at your destination. Make reservations for a rental car or town car in advance. Taxis, subways and airport shuttles are easy to use and more affordable, most of the time.
- Pool your resources. Marybeth Bond, founder of Gutsy Traveler and author of Best Girlfriends Getaways Worldwide recommends “each person put $100 in a nonrefundable kitty. If anyone backs out, they lose the $100 but it isn’t such a big hit to everyone else.”
- Research your options. Utilize sites such as Yelp, Zagat, and TripAdvisor when making decisions on where to go, what to see, and where to eat. The concierge is also a wealth of knowledge, and don’t underestimate the locals who can tell you about neighborhood restaurants that are hidden away. I like Yelp because it recommends restaurants within walking distance of wherever I happen to land during the day. There are also some great travel apps that can be useful, here are a few, but you can find others that may work best for your particular trip: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/11/8-travel-apps-to-make-you_n_3060491.html.
- Make a friend/family agreement to communicate. Travel can bring out the best, and sometimes the worst in people, and being able to get through a rough patch with your fellow travelers will make a big difference in how your trip turns out. Make a pact now to resolve any disagreement in a swift, civil, mannerly fashion. Agree there will be no silent treatment, brooding, name calling or late night trips to the airport to catch the next plane home.
- Bring your own toothpaste. At least on the trips I have gone on (with my friends!), someone always forgets their toothpaste. I have an aversion to sharing my toothpaste, just saying. If you are out in the woods, it’s not as easy to go to the local Duane Reade, so make a checklist of necessary essentials. If you wear contacts, don’t forget to bring your glasses just in case you have to run from a hungry bear in the middle of the night.
- Schedule some time to go solo. Just because you are traveling with another person, or a large group, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t factor in some time for yourself. Even if you are traveling with your kids, take turns watching the children so that you can do a little shopping on your own. Everyone benefits from a short break.
- No surprises. If you are sharing a room with your friend and she doesn’t know you have to sleep with a night light, or that you sleep walk or sing in your sleep, you should speak up and let your friend decide if you are a desirable roommate.
- Keep the bickering private. If you are traveling with your mate, try your hardest not to argue about his bad table manners, or her bad habit of always being late. Keep your criticisms to yourself and if you must argue, do it privately.
- Take plenty of pictures to remember the fun, but don’t post on social media sites without permission!
Happy Travels,
About the Author:
Diane Gottsman is a national etiquette expert and a popular "go to" resource to the modern executive. She travels nationally teaching corporations and universities in the finer points of manners and protocol. Diane is the owner of The Protocol School of Texas and the resident etiquette expert on a successful morning television show, SA Living, an NBC television affiliate. She is routinely quoted in national media outlets such as Real Simple, HGTV Magazine, The New York Times, CNN, Bloomberg Business Week, U.S. News & World Report, CBS Money Watch, Kiplinger's and Forbes. The latter publication previously named her blog one of the "Top 100 Websites for Women."
by Diane Gottsman on May 14, 2013

I grew up riding a bike with high handlebars and a banana seat and thought nothing of asking my best friend, Joe Harris, to give me a “pump” home. I would sit against the “sissy bar,” between the tall front handles, or behind Joe, perched on the long, narrow seat. While I fondly remember my past, my professional vocabulary does not include the term, “back in the day” – it’s dated, and sends a message that I was cutting down a cherry tree with George Washington!
Just as you keep your business attire current and your teeth cleaned and whitened, it would also be a good idea to lose some of the outdated terms and phrases that no longer apply. Here are a few that grate on my nerves when I hear a presenter use them:
- Surfing the Net. Consider replacing this phrase with “online.” Rather than “dialing up” the computer to check the “World Wide Web,” (and, yes, I recently heard someone say this!), hire someone to develop an app (or do it yourself) for your mobile customers who may need quick access to the information you offer.
- The Big Cheese. Does not refer to a large hunk of Gouda. This would be your current boss, 15 years your junior.
- “Let’s Do Lunch.” You don’t “do” lunch, you share lunch with a client or someone you are building a relationship with. If you are interested in sharing a meal and want to meet someone for lunch, make the call and set a date. Remember, if you extend the invitation, you are also expected to pay the bill and leave the gratuity.
- The Boob Tube. This ridiculous term is an outdated, unsophisticated term for the television. Remove, delete, purge from your vocabulary.
- Stewardess. According to America by Air, “Reflecting the social changes of the 1960s and ’70s, the term ‘stewardess’ evolved into gender-neutral ‘flight attendant.’ Flight attendants have a great deal of responsibility, among the most important is to keep you safe while traveling.”
- Secretary. The person who manages your business life, makes your travel arrangements, confirms your appointments, sends out your important documents, and makes you look good by acting as an Ambassador of your company would appreciate being called your “executive assistant.”
- Tickled Pink. I was recently a keynote speaker at an event where a very “genteel” woman, still reminiscing of her cotillion days, introduced me by slowly and painfully reading my bio, word for word, mispronouncing my name, and then ad-libbed, “Now, I’m tickled pink to introduce…” Not an appropriate intro for a group of business executives. Lesson learned.
- “I’ll Check My Rolodex”. Since most of us carry our contacts via our smartphones, the word Rolodex is often used out of context.
- Tickler File. In an age when most files have gone digital, a tickler file has fallen by the wayside, next to “tickled pink.”
- The Twitter. The correct term is “Twitter,” and your friends are not “Twitts.” Yet another situation where the speaker was not familiar with terms that were being discussed as part of their own presentation. It was extremely uncomfortable to watch – like a train wreck!
- Maven and Diva. If you want to be seriously considered as a businesswoman, don’t even think about getting these terms imprinted on a vanity license plate for your car.
Words are constantly being updated to reflect the latest developments but a mannerly rule to live by is this: Never, use words to demean, degrade, or make fun of anyone else. Outdated, updated, overdated, or underrated – you are responsible for what comes out of your own mouth. Is there an outdated term or phrase that you would prefer to never hear again? Tweet me @dianegottsman or post on my Facebook page.
About the Author:
Diane Gottsman is a national etiquette expert and a popular "go to" resource to the modern executive. She travels nationally teaching corporations and universities in the finer points of manners and protocol. Diane is the owner of The Protocol School of Texas and the resident etiquette expert on a successful morning television show, SA Living, an NBC television affiliate. She is routinely quoted in national media outlets such as Real Simple, HGTV Magazine, The New York Times, CNN, Bloomberg Business Week, U.S. News & World Report, CBS Money Watch, Kiplinger's and Forbes. The latter publication previously named her blog one of the "Top 100 Websites for Women."