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If a cell phone or tablet has made its way onto your teen’s back-to-school shopping list, set aside some time to go over family guidelines. I’ve put together a few helpful pointers, many of which are mannerly reminders for adults as well.
People first. When you are with your friends, unless it’s a call or text from your parents, wait to respond. Use your best judgment when determining if you should answer your phone or reply to a text right away. Those you are spending time with will appreciate your undivided attention.
Develop healthy habits. Though it may be tempting to spend quite a bit of time online (especially at first), establishing a routine that allows you to make the most out of your day will set you up for years of success. As is true in other areas of your life, balance is essential.
Silence is golden. In public places such as a movie theatre, church or classroom, show courtesy for those around you by turning your ringer off and silencing any notifications. We’ve all been distracted by the bright screen of a neighbor checking his or her phone during a performance; it’s something you’ll want to avoid.
Know when to put your cell phone away. Carrying around your device in your hand sends the message you are anxiously waiting for someone better to call. Check it occasionally to see if your parents have contacted you, but keep it stored out of sight for the rest of the time. It’s expensive to replace a lost or dropped cell phone.
Read and reread. Before hitting “send” on a text message or post, give it a quick glance to make sure you haven’t misspelled anything or auto correct hasn’t changed a word or used it out of context. Don’t forget your best manners when communicating with others. “Please” and “Thank you” should not be abbreviated when emailing a teacher or another adult.
Count to ten. Think twice before sending out an emotional text or direct message. Allow yourself time to cool down before saying something that could hurt another person’s feelings. Write only what you wouldn’t mind your pastor or the principal of your school reading over the loud speaker. You cannot retract words that can easily be shared with others.
Disagree in private. If you have an opposing opinion, discuss it offline. Arguing or embarrassing someone with an unkind comment is behaving in the same manner as the person you are attempting to call out.
Remove your earbuds. When speaking with another person or going through the line in a store, take out both earbuds and give the other person your full attention.
Stay in touch. There are countless benefits to the many features your mobile device offers, one of those being the ability to easily stay in touch with family that live out of town. Use this opportunity to send your favorite aunt a photo, or your cousin a text, just to say “hello.” It will surely brighten their day.
***To parents: Unfortunately, cyber bullies and sexually-explicit information is easily accessed on the web and through social media. Please talk to your teens about the severity of this issue and discuss measures that must be taken to keep your kids safe.
You may also find Social Media Etiquette for College Students and Young Professionals helpful.