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Business and Booze: Happy Hour Etiquette

02 May 2011 By: Diane Gottsman

I am thrilled to be a contributor at Pretty Young Professional, a website dedicated to empowering young, professional women.  If you missed my article on Happy Hour Etiquette, here it is again, re-published from the Pretty Young Professional website.  You can find them on Twitter @PYPro or Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/pypro.

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In the professional world, happy hour is much more than tossing back a few cosmos at the end of the work week. After-hours functions, often involving alcohol, can be an important part of moving up the executive career ladder in some corporate climates.

The key is figuring out how to handle the alcohol situation at business-related (and non-business-related) social drinking events. Even if you are out with the girls for a quick drink, someone is always looking. A few simple tips and tricks will help you make the most of the after-work social scene, and avoid being stereotyped as “that girl:”

1. Stay in professional mode, even though you aren’t in the office. Positively or negatively, your conduct after-hours can impact your career. Happy hour is the “perfect storm” where you can make a lasting impression—but it can go either way.

2. Know there’s nothing wrong with having a drink. It’s not necessary to shun alcohol altogether to maintain a professional demeanor. In fact, avoiding events where alcohol is served could negatively impact your career. If you consistently skip the office happy hour, you’ll miss out on valuable face-time with colleagues, clients, and your boss, and it can create the stigma of not being part of “the team.”

3. Participate, even if you choose not to drink. You can opt out of drinking for personal, religious, or health reasons. But make every effort to allow those around you to feel comfortable having a drink themselves by saying, “No thanks, I’m not a big wine/beer/liquor drinker, but please, go right ahead.” or “I’ll enjoy my gin and tonic without the gin!”

4. Remember that fun is not your primary objective. Never make the mistake of thinking a work-sponsored happy hour is a chance to “let loose” and “blow off some steam.” Enjoy yourself, but don’t treat it like a get-together with your buddies. Remember that supervisors, bosses, and clients will be there observing your behavior.

5. Learn to sip rather than guzzle your drink. Pace yourself—it’s not a race!

6. Eat before you get there, and then again during happy hour. Peanuts and tapas can be your friend. Nothing is worse than alcohol splashing around in an empty stomach.

7. Drink deceptively. If you’ve reached your limit or don’t want to drink at all, you can still fit in by ordering a club soda with a twist of lime and a splash of cranberry juice, or a glass of sangria where the wine is diluted. Carry a drink around with you as a prop and drink only half (or none) of it. No one will notice if you are making dazzling conversation.

8. Don’t follow the leader. It does not matter how much your boss is drinking or what behavior he or she is displaying, you should be most concerned with your own job and reputation. In this case, don’t “Do as the Romans do.”

9. Know your personal limits. You may not think that you are “drunk” after two drinks, but alcohol lessens inhibitions and you may turn into a Way-Too-Chatty Cathy. Decide how much you’ll drink over a specific time frame and stick to it. And remember, this is not the same limit you’d set for girls’ night out.

10. Don’t push alcohol on others. Believe your client or colleague when they say they’ve had enough, and don’t automatically order another round without asking.

Happy hour provides a great chance for friends, colleagues, and clients to meet on a more relaxed, casual basis. Just remember to keep your wits about you, and use the opportunity wisely. Cheers!

Photo courtesy of Lindsey T.

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Diane Gottsman is a national etiquette expert and modern manners professional, sought out industry leader, television personality, accomplished speaker, Huffington Post blogger, author, and the owner of The Protocol School of Texas, a company specializing in executive leadership and etiquette training. Diane is routinely quoted in national and international media including The New York Times, The BBC, CNN, Bloomberg Business Week, Kiplinger, Huffington Post Canada, U.S. News and World Report, and Forbes. She is the resident etiquette expert for two popular morning talk shows, SA Living and Good Day Austin. She has been seen on The TODAY Show, HLN Headline News, WGN Chicago, and CBS Sunday Morning. Her clients range from university students to Fortune 500 companies and her workshops cover topics ranging from tattoos in the workplace to technology at the dinner table and the proper use of social media.

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  1. Juanita Ecker says

    May 5, 2011 at 2:57 pm

    Diane, Great tips. Employees do need to remember they are always on stage. Their managers and supervisors will notice how they act, how much they eat, who they flirt with, the type of jokes they tell and how much they drink at these after-hour events. I have had managers tell me they were considering promoting someone and then they saw how the individual acted at a holiday party. The company decided that individual did not represent their corporate brand and promoted someone else instead.

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