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The Etiquette of Navigating Multiple Job Offers

22 Feb 2016 By: Diane Gottsman

Job Interview Tips
Dear Diane,
A regional business journal recently spotlighted my current role, where I market my city online as an ideal destination for business and leisure travelers.

Shortly after the article ran, I was contacted by the CEO of a chamber of commerce several states away. He indicated they would like to set up a Skype interview for a job opening in their communications department. The size of the city and increase in overall responsibilities would be significant steps forward in my career. Just a few days later, the director of a local museum, whom I’ve always admired, reached out to inquire if I would be open to coming on staff in a social media capacity. She indicated I would be able to play a part in shaping the responsibilities of the position, and I’m very intrigued.

I enjoy the work that I do now; however, each offer appeals to me for different reasons. What should I keep in mind before moving forward with both interviews?

~ Erin

Dear Erin,

What an exhilarating time in your career! The fact that these executives have expressed such an interest in you speaks volumes about the impact you’re making in your community. It’s understandable how each of the possibilities is appealing. The chance to relocate to a larger metropolitan area, and immerse yourself in a new environment, would certainly broaden your outlook. Spending your days amidst beautiful pieces of history and doing something that you feel strongly about also sounds like a prime opportunity for growth. I am confident you will continue to expand your skills should you decide to stay in your existing position, where you are happy, so it certainly seems like a win-win-win.

Here are a few suggestions as you decide where your professional journey will lead:

Evaluate your options. Start by writing down the pros and cons of your present role. Spell out what you love most about your workday, as well as areas that you find less enjoyable. Then, move onto similar lists based on what you know about the other two opportunities and gauge how each line up with your long term goals. Do you ultimately want to call a top ten tourism destination home, or would you rather nurture existing relationships where you are? Does being immersed in the museum world sound like a dream come true?

Open the discussion. The best way to get a feel for your options and the culture in either organization is to accept their interview invitations. Do as much research in advance as you can so that you are able to ask the right questions. Afterward, revisit your pros and cons list and make notes while the conversation is still fresh.

Proceed with caution. Avoid letting news of the latest developments slip inadvertently in the office. Schedule initial calls on your lunch break, away from the building, or take an afternoon off for a Skype call or an appointment. Wait to approach your supervisor until you are clear about your decision.

Don’t be afraid to negotiate. Even though a company may have extended an offer, it doesn’t mean you have to accept it immediately. Be sure to review the terms of the contract to ensure they line up with your expectations. It’s easier to address your concerns beforehand rather than waiting until your first day. It’s safe to assume the business is looking out for their best interests, the question is this: are you looking out for yours?

Prepare for a counter-offer. Review what you will say if your present company offers you an increase in salary or other perks to keep you. Your boss recognizes your value and may ask you, “What will it take to get you to stay?” Have a clear idea beforehand as to how you will respond.

Whatever your decision, make every effort to maintain a professional relationship with everyone concerned. You never know what the future holds.

Best of luck,

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Diane Gottsman is a national etiquette expert and modern manners professional, sought out industry leader, television personality, accomplished speaker, Huffington Post blogger, author, and the owner of The Protocol School of Texas, a company specializing in executive leadership and etiquette training. Diane is routinely quoted in national and international media including The New York Times, The BBC, CNN, Bloomberg Business Week, Kiplinger, Huffington Post Canada, U.S. News and World Report, and Forbes. She is the resident etiquette expert for two popular morning talk shows, SA Living and Good Day Austin. She has been seen on The TODAY Show, HLN Headline News, WGN Chicago, and CBS Sunday Morning. Her clients range from university students to Fortune 500 companies and her workshops cover topics ranging from tattoos in the workplace to technology at the dinner table and the proper use of social media.

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