Holidays and Politics Aren’t a Merry Mix

‘Tis the season to be jolly. However, it’s hard to feel comfort and joy when your relatives are engaged in a heated debate on current events. Unfortunately, when people gather to celebrate the holidays, it is possible for the conversation to drift to one of the most taboo of conversational topics: politics. Everyone has their viewpoints (often strongly held), but holiday gatherings are not the time to debate the merits of a particular politician, party or issue, especially when the discussion takes a combative tone.

Your role as a host is to ensure the comfort of all of your guests, so to keep peace on earth at your next holiday gathering, follow these eight simple tips.

1. Establish Boundaries

Setting expectations with your guests can help head off any problems before they surface. This strategy works exceptionally well with those who have a reputation for lengthy, blood-pressure-raising diatribes. Explain in advance (or at the first sign of trouble) that you intend to create an atmosphere of lighthearted celebration and that you reserve the right to change the subject if an exchange gets uncomfortable.

2. Seat Guests Strategically

This is a great time to make place cards for your dinner companions. If you have two guests with well-known opposing views, put some space between them at the table. Seat them next to individuals you can trust to maintain their composure.

3. All Things Calm and Bright

Your goal is to avoid unwelcome rants and generate a warm, cordial environment. Avoid losing your cool or engaging in a debate with the offender. Use humor to redirect the conversation: “Now that we’re done solving the world’s problems, let’s talk about everyone’s New Year’s Eve plans.”

4. Have a Few Conversation Starters

Be ready to take a conversational detour by having a mental list of interesting topics at the ready. Fondest Christmas memories, the best holiday gift of all time, travel plans, plans for the new year and all kinds of favorites (food, movies, TV shows, etc.) can be fun subjects that everyone can contribute to – and maybe even help guests find common ground.

5. Push Liquor Free Beverages

Alcohol impairs judgment and shrinks inhibition. While you want your guests to relax and have a good time, help prevent overindulging by making sure plenty of alcohol-free drinks are available. These may include a festive punch, sparkling waters, eggnog or a signature “mocktail.” Make sure there is plenty of water available to encourage people to hydrate.

6. Shift the Focus

Plan activities that divert everyone’s attention into universal, non-political entertainment. Find a sporting event on TV, put on a movie, start a board game that everyone can play or bundle up and go for a family walk to look at the Christmas lights in the neighborhood.

Add a hefty fine. If multiple guests are ready to rumble, ward off problems with a jar placed in the middle of the table. Anyone who mentions politics must donate $5 to a charity of your choice.

7. Have An Exit Strategy

It’s not your job to be a polite listener. Instead, ask your guest to help you in the kitchen, fill the ice buckets, freshen up drinks or replenish the buffet table. As a guest, kindly excuse yourself to powder your nose or speak to another guest. The idea is to put space between you and the rant-er and set boundaries that make you comfortable.

8. Ask for a Private Chat

As the host, if a guest is not respecting your request to avoid political arguments, take them aside and speak to them privately. Ask them politely, but pointedly, to please refrain from further discourse. Time with loved ones during the holidays is brief, so take all necessary measures to make sure you and your guests leave with only positive memories.