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5 Things You Can Do When You Hate Your New Job

27 Jan 2020 By: Diane Gottsman

You have just started what you thought was going to be the job of your dreams and you quickly realize you hate your new job. You’ve made a mistake and should have taken “door number two”, the job you were contemplating before signing on with your current company. You feel you have made a mistake and now you aren’t sure what to do next. Here are a few tips to consider as you carefully and objectively evaluate your next best move. Whether you decide to stick it out or move along, don’t make a rash decision you may later regret.

Hate Your New Job

Previously published on Huff Post.

Identify the Problem

You accepted the job offer for a reason, so it’s critical to understand where it’s falling short of your expectations. Several factors influence your feelings toward a job: the boss, the corporate culture, coworkers, customers, the commute, or the work itself. If unexpectedly long hours are dragging you down, determine whether this is the company norm or a temporary situation, such as a big project or simply the learning curve you are undertaking in your new role.

Think Big Picture

Weigh the benefits and downsides of your new job carefully. No job is 100% wonderful at all times, but consider how this position fits into your overall goals. Perhaps it’s giving you much-needed flexibility for more time with your family, or a pay raise which will help you quickly pay off your school loan or a mortgage.  It may also be giving you experience in a new field or market, and the skills you learn may be invaluable for your next move up the corporate ladder. Decide if the long-term benefits are worth the short-term angst.

Consider the Consequences

Consistently bouncing between short-lived jobs may influence a future employer. But then again, there may be times when it’s worth the risk. For example, if you begin what appears to be a dream job and quickly realize you have stepped into an untenable situation that will soon have your name on it, it may be best to cut your losses sooner than later. According to one study, job hopping does not necessarily carry the same stigma that it did in the past.  

Come Up With a Possible Fix

Once you zero in on the main problems, consider whether there are ways to mitigate the pain. Talk to your supervisor and share your feelings. If your new position isn’t right, they may be willing to adjust your duties or look for a better fit elsewhere within the company. If they aren’t open to finding solutions, that will also help you decide what to do next. 

Exit Professionally

Stay positive and cooperative on your way out the door. Remaining diplomatic will only help you in your future endeavors. Recognize that changing your mind has created hassles for your employer; they now have to recruit someone new and explain the change to their clients. Also, you never know when your paths will cross with the contacts you’ve made in your short time there.

Apply Your Learnings to Your Next Job Search

Think carefully about what you can do differently this time around. Reflect on those things you wished you’d known before taking your last job. Ask the right questions and determine what it will take to make you comfortable. You may not get to pick and choose exactly what you want, but knowing what makes you feel valued is a good start to looking for the right fit.  

You may also like 9 Signs It’s Time To Look For Another Job. For more of Diane’s etiquette tips, read her posts on Inc., subscribe to her articles on Huff Post, “like” The Protocol School of Texas on Facebook, and follow her on Pinterest, Instagram, and Twitter. Buy her new book, Modern Etiquette for a Better Life.

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Diane Gottsman is a national etiquette expert and modern manners professional, sought out industry leader, television personality, accomplished speaker, Huffington Post blogger, author, and the owner of The Protocol School of Texas, a company specializing in executive leadership and etiquette training. Diane is routinely quoted in national and international media including The New York Times, The BBC, CNN, Bloomberg Business Week, Kiplinger, Huffington Post Canada, U.S. News and World Report, and Forbes. She is the resident etiquette expert for two popular morning talk shows, SA Living and Good Day Austin. She has been seen on The TODAY Show, HLN Headline News, WGN Chicago, and CBS Sunday Morning. Her clients range from university students to Fortune 500 companies and her workshops cover topics ranging from tattoos in the workplace to technology at the dinner table and the proper use of social media.

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