Friendsgiving Host Etiquette: All the Fun, None of the Fuss
Friendsgiving is a chance to gather with friends you wish you could see more often but have a hard time coordinating your calendars throughout the busy year. Pull up a comfy chair, pass around the sweet potato casserole, and take the time to celebrate people who make your life better. Keep reading for our best Friendsgiving host etiquette tips, with an emphasis on more fun, less fuss.
You Don’t Need a Big Budget
If your budget is a little tight, no need to fret. Think about it like this: share the menu and share the expense. Make it a Friendsgiving “Pot Luck,” and handle the main course. Ask each guest to bring a favorite holiday dish to share; strive for a good mix of side options and no repeats of dressing or mashed potatoes.
Be Specific
Whether you send out a formal invitation, a text, or make a phone call to invite your guests, include the time of arrival, the time you plan to serve the meal, and whether they can bring a plus one. If you have dress expectations, let your guests know so they will be properly dressed for the formality (or informality) of the celebration.
Be “In the Know” about Allergies
Always ask each guest if there are any dietary restrictions or allergies you should be made aware of before you start creating the menu. Let other guests know if a guest has a food allergy so they can make adjustments to their dish as well. Keep ingredient information close by in case there are any questions or concerns. Your guests with allergies will be grateful for the extra consideration.
No Rules on What Food to Serve
A joyful menu is in order! You can serve a turkey or a turkey lasagna, a roast chicken, or a vegetarian main course. The main course is up to you, considering the preferences of your guests. Select a manageable main course that won’t hurt your budget or keep you tethered to the kitchen. A relaxed host makes for a calm and cozy atmosphere.
Use What You Have
It’s not necessary to go out and buy special plates, cups, or napkins. If you need to replace a few items, check consignment first. They often have beautiful crystal and holiday pieces. Mix and match what you have in your cupboard and pull out a few seasonal decorations to adorn the table. One small but important consideration: keep the tablescape low so guests can see over the table and talk with each other.
Inventory Your Supplies
A week before the party, make a list of all your spices and kitchen supplies. From the ground cinnamon to the serving spoons, it’s better to be prepared than to stress at the last minute. A quick tip: poultry seasoning and pumpkin pie spice do double duty when you need a variety of spices and don’t have individual seasonings.
Give Gratitude
There are several ways for friends to celebrate together, from sharing a special recipe to a gift exchange, making ornaments, cookies, or candles. You can also put a date on the calendar to volunteer, or in lieu of a host gift, make a small donation to a charity.
Plan a Holiday Movie and Popcorn Dessert
After lunch or dinner, get cozy and watch a special holiday movie together. It feels nostalgic and involves very little prep. Pop popcorn, eat brownies, and have some laughs together. The memories will last a lifetime.
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