Stepmother Etiquette on Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is a day of love and recognition for the women who have shaped our lives. For many of us, that includes stepmothers.

Some people have a relationship with their stepmother that is as warm as any biological bond. For others, the relationship is more complicated, with personality differences and conflicting loyalties.  It is my hope that you are experiencing the former than the latter.

Whatever your relationship with your stepmother may be, here are some thoughts on stepmother etiquette to guide your actions this Mother’s Day:

• Stepmothers count. If you have any form of a decent relationship with your stepmother, do remember to acknowledge her on Mother’s Day. Being a stepmother is a challenging role under the best of circumstances. They often help raise and mold your most valued possessions – your own children.
• Make it a Girls Day! Consider scheduling a spa day or other fun adventure with your stepmom as an alternate to a standard greeting card.  This could be a great way to build your new relationship or enhance an already strong one.
• A positive letter or heartfelt card can be valuable beyond measure. It’s always nice to feel valued and appreciated, especially on a day that’s created especially for mom.
• Include the kids.  Even if you don’t share a strong bond with your stepmom, your children may, and will benefit from the example you set. Make an effort to get the kids involved in selecting a present or making a card that will bring a smile to their “Nana’s” (stepmom’s) face.
• Think about Dad.  Nurturing your relationship with your stepmom will make your dad proud.  After all, what little girl of any age doesn’t want her father to be proud of her?  There is very little downside to doing the right thing and making a point to brighten someone else’s special day.

Happy Mother’s Day!