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Mother’s Day Etiquette

Treat mom to flowers this Mother's Day
Mother’s Day is the perfect occasion to honor your mother, grandmother, stepmother or anyone else that has played a maternal role in your life. Below you’ll find my feedback on a variety of questions surrounding the special holiday that came in via social media and email.  Feel free to tweet me @dianegottsman if you have a Mother’s Day etiquette question. I love hearing from you and always appreciate your interest in building a stronger relationship with your mom!

Mother’s Day Etiquette: Do’s and Don’ts

  • Do think ahead. Last minute visits can be stressful for everyone. Call your mom and schedule a visit – even if it’s not on the exact day. You may have your own plans on Mother’s Day and getting an early start will ease your busy calendar.
  • Do plan a Mother’s Day Brunch. It may be impractical to visit your mom on Mother’s Day if she is in another city, state or country, but if mom is close, attempt to celebrate in person. You may have to juggle a few balls, mother in law, grandmother, and stepmom, but the effort will be noticed. Refer to my Mother’s Day Table Setting Guide and Tips on planning a special Mother’s Day here.
  • Do acknowledge all the women in your life. Your sister may have raised you, a neighbor may have stepped in when your mother was ill, a mentor may have guided you as a mother, and an elderly aunt may have taken you under her wing. This is an excellent time to “pay it forward” by surprising them with a thoughtful gesture or sweet treat.
  • Don’t overlook your stepmom. This is an ideal opportunity to show respect to someone who took part in raising you, developing your character and making an impact on your life. Being part of a blended family takes work and a supportive stepmom is worth her weight in gold. One of the greatest gifts you can give your dad is to be kind to your stepmom.
  • Don’t use Mother’s Day as a platform to make a point. If your relationship with your mom/stepmom is strained, keep the bickering out of the holiday. Under most circumstances, it’s appropriate to put your differences aside and show respect to your mom by sending a card and, or, a small token of appreciation. The argument will pass but the hurt feelings over being overlooked on Mother’s Day will be remembered.
  • Don’t forget to include your siblings. If you are planning a backyard barbeque or afternoon tea, ask for input from your brothers and sisters. It may make it easier to combine festivities.

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